Thursday, January 29, 2009
Friends....where are they?
So I have been brooding today and in a mood. Why various reasons really but one of them is not having any friends. I have been stuck home with the kids most days and it's really getting to me. I have some friends who live out of state but I NEED friends near by too and it's just not happening. Sure I have acquatiences but I need some real friends. The dictionary describes friend as one attached to another by affection or esteem, a favored companion. I know a few ppl that would fit into that but they don't seem to want to be that way with me. Is it b/c they don't have the time, don't need anymore friends or what? Maybe it's just me. Clay keeps telling me that I am a good person blah blah blah but holy shit where are the friends if all that is true? I am so lonely and bored to death I don't know what to do with myself most days. Is my kids that bad that noone wants us around? I don't ever get invited over to anyone's house and I get left out of plans for other stuff in the groups I am in. It's depressing and really bothering me lately. I really don't know what to do. I can keep going like Clay says I should but sometimes I just don't feel like it. It's so hard to make friends as it is add everything else in it's almost impossible. I have to get a grip on myself and start over and try to make some friends yet again. I feel like I do this all the freaking time but nothing ever pans out. I feel like I have some good qualties as a friend ppl just have to take the time to get to know me to find out for themselves. Don't write me off I am a person too who needs friends and comapionship damnit!!!! I can't be the only one in this type of situation. So what do you do? I have joined playgroups and put myself out there. I even posted on Craigslist looking for friends. I know desperate but I guess I am for some friendships lol.
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Omg... I can totally relate. Since moving here I have no friends. It's so depressing. I'm closer to all my out of state friends that the one "friend" I've made here so far. To top it all off she is moving in May! So there goes that "friendship". It is so hard being cooped up in the house all day. I do have one hell of a clean house though! hee hee
ReplyDeleteI wish I knew what to say to get you more friends. I've joined playgroups and such too but here no one even bothers to show up... I mean NO ONE!
I love ya Trisha and wish I was there in VA b/c then we could keep each other company again. I have so many memories of you and I cherish them!
I am also having a miserable time here in NJ with friends. Mike tells me to go and join a playgroup but how when I have kids who are in school???? I have one friend here and everyone else is aquintances. It is hard. I think that it is hard for me because I do not have anything in common with anyone. At least in VA we had the military as our common bond. We were able to help one another out and we knew what one another was going through during times of deployments or duty days. I miss everyone...*sniff sniff*.
ReplyDeleteTrisha you are a excellent friend. You always have been. I think that people do not know what they are missing when they are not friends with you. They are missing a ton. You have a heart of gold. I love you and in my perfect world you, Heather and I would be together again!!